{"id":1184,"date":"2016-02-29T13:17:54","date_gmt":"2016-02-29T13:17:54","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/paulsyng.com\/blog\/?p=1184"},"modified":"2022-06-25T07:43:57","modified_gmt":"2022-06-25T11:43:57","slug":"whats-the-indian-rope-trick-have-in-common-with-picking-up-girls","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/paulsyng.com\/blog\/whats-the-indian-rope-trick-have-in-common-with-picking-up-girls\/","title":{"rendered":"What\u2019s the Indian rope trick have in common with picking up girls?"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"Senior<\/a><\/p>\n

For many years, people from across the world have travelled to Indian shores to witness a fakir climb miraculously his way up a rope that disappears into the thin sky above. Only to reappear minutes later from behind the\u00a0crowd to everyone\u2019s shock and loud applause.<\/p>\n

Indian men, ever since, have developed a natural knack for a putting on a show. The only rational equivalent, for the sake of my argument, to the Indian rope trick is when an Indian man walks into a bar, approaches gorgeous\u00a0women, walks out with a bunch of phone numbers and a girl in each arm.<\/p>\n

The audience, including you, not only left shocked and amazed but also often left women-less. Don\u2019t sweat, I\u2019ve prepared a tandoori platter of dating tips that\u2019ll have women eating from the palm of your hands. Couldn\u2019t help\u00a0the inane reference there.<\/p>\n

Here\u2019s what you need to know about an Indian man\u2019s dating game.<\/p>\n

First and foremost. Drop the plan. I\u2019ve gone through my share of endless \u201cgame-plan\u201d oriented dating websites, books and manuals. All those got me were nights alone at home with a beer and stale nachos from the night\u00a0before.<\/p>\n

Coming back home to an empty couch on several occasions, I can assure you that plans don\u2019t work. Here\u2019s why. You\u2019ll have way too much noise bothering you throughout the encounter and have you waiting for the\u00a0\u201csupposedly\u201d right signals.
\nAnd this is one of the major differences in an Indian man\u2019s game. He has no plan. Don\u2019t believe me, look at the Indian infrastructure. We do first, plan later. A famous quote from an Indian businessman, Ratan Tata will\u00a0elucidate my argument-<\/p>\n

“I don\u2019t believe in taking the right decisions.. I take decisions and then try to make them right..” So always believe in your ability and efforts… \u201d<\/p>\n

Here\u2019s what you can learn from that old chestnut. Go out there without a plan, a clear head so to speak and just be yourself. If your funny, be that funny man. Oh, and by the way, women love a guy who can make them laugh\u00a0their way into bed.<\/p>\n

How would you do this? Simple. Think spontaneous, go-with-the-flow, making something absolutely boring exciting and paying close attention to her mood. Let\u2019s say, you pick her up at 7:30 for a dinner and movie. Quite routine, ordinary or run of the mill. Right? Imagine, going bowling the same night (because you paid attention when her mood was clearly not in for Titanic 3D for the 5th time). Or ever seen stars in movies pull up at the airport and book tickets to the first plane that leaves. That!<\/p>\n

If you\u2019re not the adventurous sort, taking simpler steps will give you the confidence to do something novel later. To effectively pull of the (no-plan-plan) is to listen very carefully of all the things she has on the bucket list. Like, if she doesn\u2019t like texting, drop in at her place, call her by the large mango tree (for the sake of argument, she has a large tree at the edge of her lawn) and hold her hand, look into her eyes (like a 5 year old boy who\u2019s just discovered dad\u2019s secret porn stash) evade being caught by her dad and maybe even sneak up to her bedroom.<\/p>\n

One particular incident I can recollect from my past will elucidate this concept. So, there we were, a bunch of girls and boys, having a pizza and one of the girls started horsing around with me over a slice of pizza. To everyone\u2019s shock and dismay, one thing led to another and we ended up bathing each other with soda that night in clear view of the staff, bystanders, other customers and our remainder friends at the pizza joint. We laughed and people raved about the incident for years. It was random, spontaneous and ballsy because even she didn\u2019t expect anything non-gentlemen like (which men in her life had overdosed her on).<\/p>\n

Secondly, women like a guy with balls, the sort who believes in something. It could be anything. As long as the conviction is there she\u2019ll believe you. With our rich heritage and culture, Indian men have a lot going for themselves.\u00a0Usually, if used in the right dose, it can win over the most difficult girls.<\/p>\n

Further perpetuated and personified by our ancestors, grandparents and then the relatives. India, up till now, in large parts is still a land of big families. And a religious boy or the domesticated sort are a favourite with Indian girls (the next tip elaborates a bit on this). She sees you as rooted, God fearing and someone who can shift into several demanding gears that may require for you to juggle kids, her parents and then the household help while negotiating a a business deal with hard-nosed businessman over the phone.<\/p>\n

For example. In order for me to explain this concept I will share the most common misbelief amongst men. The bigger his pocket (the more money) or the guy with the bigger car gets more girls. I say rubbish. I\u2019d say most rich boys don\u2019t try to hard because they let their money speak. This, after a couple of months, becomes mundane and boring. She prefers a guy who can speak his mind rather than his wallet. Look at all the artists, musicians, writers (awkward cough*) sporting girls in their arms. You\u2019ll find these girls lost in the eyes of the dreamer.
\nThirdly, master the art of perseverance. Most of us give up or retreat, in fear, at an early stage. Women, especially in India, play hard-to-get even if they\u2019re not a 10 or 7.5. The other half fall under the conservative-conventional shell of the Indian society (I don\u2019t speak with strangers or go out sort).<\/p>\n

But, I believe (without dabbling into generalization) men are solely to blame for this radical behaviour (it\u2019s the she smiled so I will take her to bed mentality). This not only inflated estrogen balloons but cemented the belief that all men want to get into some pants.<\/p>\n

Cut long story short, you could be a player but chances are rejection is on the menu. You must learn to take it slowly and, dare I say this but it bloody well works out here, take the \u201cfriendship\u201d route if all else fails. This way one can\u2019t be intimidating the other and it opens up a door to know the person better. But be careful in how you tread on this double edged path (try only rimming the well without actually falling in if you know what I mean).<\/p>\n

One tried and tested model that seems to work like a charm 99% of the time under the art of perseverance is flipping the ecosystem. It\u2019s been mastered\/perpetuated and thrown around year after year by Bollywood (the Indian Hollywood, duh!). Allow me to explain and break this mystical and magical model in easy, consumable and doable steps.<\/p>\n

Let\u2019s say you know a girl from school who also happens to live next door (sort of like an American Pie situation). Now, pay attention closely because it gets a bit tricky here. Get her parents, her friends, her dog, her relatives to fall in love with you. This will make the soil fertile and the ecosystem ripe for you to step in and make the move. In other words, all the \u201cinfluencers\u201d in her life will vouch for you. Play your cards right and she\u2019ll be the one making the first move.<\/p>\n

In conclusion, here\u2019s where I can leave you with a quick recap. Remember to drop the plan and be spontaneous (the do first and make sense later approach), be the versatile social monkey abled to handle all flocks of society in one merry-go-round (without flinching) and mastering the art of perseverance and flipping her ecosystem in your favour should seal the deal (it sort of reminds of that movie \u201cHow to lose a guy in 10 days\u201d when McConaughey takes Hudson home). Hmmm…<\/p>\n

Published originally on GQ<\/a>.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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